Women Need Women I

If you are an expecting mother, or ever expect to be a mother, there is one key factor I have observed for a successful, natural childbirth: having a woman who has been there with you. You can (and should) read the books, take a class and think of coping strategies. But I have seen that having a trusted friend, your mom, or even a professional attendant (doula) with you is unparalleled. That woman can look you in the eyes and talk you through labor in a way no one else can. I was listening to a friend’s account of being present for another friend’s birth (a VBAC) and I was so excited for the both of them to have shared that experience, together. When I was preparing for Kate’s birth, I thought I wanted an intimate delivery room, with just the medical personnel and Michael. I was lucky to have a great nurse and a friend who came when I called from the hospital and asked her to, though I ended up with an epidural, I remember how soothing and comforting their presence was to me. With Lexi, I had the midwife (who has 10 kids, most of whom were born at home, including twins) and my mother to talk me through things. I am glad Michael was there as well (they are his children!) but there’s something about having someone who has done it there with you to say, “You can do this, too.” I’d be glad to be there for anyone who asked, if I was logistically able, and I think most women who have had a natural childbirth feel the same way. Don’t be afraid to ask!

I’ve been thinking about some situations where women need women, I will probably write a few more posts on this.

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It’s Up

My wedding website can be accessed through http://kstewartphotography.com/

Still tweaking a bit, but I am happy to have a presence online!

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New Stage

With Lexi’s third birthday last month and potty training a distant memory, we are in a new stage of parenting. The girls spend more time playing on their own and are much more patient to listen to longer read alouds at bedtime, etc. Decidedly, this new phase agrees with me. They are hilarious and interesting to talk to. It helps that Lexi is still a cuddlebug, which propels Kate towards more snuggling as well. As far as picture books go, Lexi loves Corduroy and they both enjoy Angelina Ballerina books a great deal. Drawing is a daily activity, I need to do better to get out the paint more regularly. Kate is taking ballet and they both enjoy dancing and singing. Kate has learned a lot of hymns and carols (Red Mountain style), Lexi still clings to “Row Row Row Your Boat” as the ultimate in song. I love having a pair so close together, watching them help each other dress up and listening to them talk to one another is such a joy to me.

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Leaving, in a car with friends

It has been a good week. Many people spent time in our home. We had a lot of time as a family. Working hard on my wedding website. So much life I didn’t get much time to blog, or to read. (Somehow Twitter rarely suffers.) I am off to a women’s retreat, more life to be lived. The introvert in me will catch up soon.

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Willimon on Ehrman

Bishop William Willimon reviewed Dr. Bart Ehrman’s latest book for the Christian Century. Love it!

A past TCL musing
on Dr. Ehrman.

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Packing Up Christmas

I can hear the rain falling heavily on the sidewalk outside, as I take a break from packing up Christmas. Epiphany has come, and the ornaments are being tucked into their off-season homes, the big advent calendar into it’s tidy box. Slowly, our house is being transformed into its common state, for a common season. Perching on the mantle, our accumulation of Christmas cards begs for a new home where smiling families might be seen for a little while longer. When Yuletide ends there is a mixture of sadness and joy, the sadness of knowing that every day cannot be a holiday, but the joy of knowing that each season brings newness and fresh delights.

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Epiphany

When Christ’s appearing was made known, King Herod trembled for his throne
But He Who offers heavenly birth seeks not the kingdoms of this earth.

The eastern sages saw from far and followed on His guiding star;
By light their way to Light they trod, and by their gifts confessed their God.

Within the Jordan’s sacred flood the heavenly Lamb in meekness stood,
That He, to Whom no sin was known, might cleanse His people from their own.

And O what miracle divine, when water reddened into wine!
He spoke the word, and forth it flowed in streams that nature ne’er bestowed.

For this His glad epiphany: all glory unto Jesus be
Whom with the Father we adore and Holy Ghost forevermore.
–Cael­i­us Se­dul­i­us, 5th Cen­tu­ry

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Reading Goals

A few years ago, I listed my reading goals as “Plan better. Read more. Share more.” I even went so far as to issue a challenge to others to join in. I am not sure how I did in the sharing that first year, and it is still the hardest part for me, so I am going to attempt to post reviews as I finish books, while they are fresh on my mind. I am keeping up the other aspects of the goal as well. Planning has proved to be an important hinge of the whole plan, when it falls by the wayside, I end up reading things like Forest of the Pygmies and wondering why. (NB, I intentionally read YA and some pretty fluffy adult lit, this is not a blanket statement against such things.) No button for your blog, but I always appreciate seeing others reading good books and sharing about them, it’s a huge encouragement to me on my reading journey as well.

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Three Posts…

are all Michael managed last year here so I kicked him off the blog. He’s asked off several times in the past, I finally caved. He’s all over the web in other places (twitter, facebook, linkedin…) and I am sure he’ll make an occasional appearance when it warrants.

It’s been such a long time coming, it doesn’t feel like much change. November marked 8 years of blogging for me, so my blogging preceded this classical life, and I am used to the ebb and flow of how these things go. It does bring me to reflect on the state of this blog and I want to be less neglectful than I have in the past. I tend to try to minimize book, business and children posts, but my life is mostly children, business and books, so I’ve decided to let loose.

In evicting Michael from the left side bar, I found room for a recent tweets feature. Love me some twitter.

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Forest of the Pygmies by Isabel Allende

About 3 or 4 of the books I read every year are actually unabridged audio books we listen to on road trips. The night before we left for North Carolina, I made a whirlwind trip to the library with the girls to grab a few possibilities Michael and I might enjoy. I remembered that Michael appreciated Allende’s House of Spirits, so I grabbed this one. There was no time to even read the back that day, so as we started listening, I was really confused. After a while, I realized this was a Young Adult novel, part of a trilogy that Allende wrote in the genre. Once that came to light, I tried to appreciate this for what it was. The plot had a great deal of potential but I was disappointed that it seemed like the protagonists, unlike their adult counterparts, didn’t find their way through the mystery and adventure by wit or strength but rather depended on their magical “totemic powers.” Overall, not a bad story, but Allende seemed slightly condescending in her writing for a YA audience. I’d still like to read her adult novels, though! (6/10)

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Books Read in 2008

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Little Women, L. Alcott
Persuasion, J. Austen
Jane Eyre, C. Bronte*
The Man Who Was Thursday, G. Chesterton
The Quiet American, G. Greene
On the Road, J. Kerouac
To Kill a Mockingbird, H. Lee*
The The Heart Is a Lonely Hunter, C. McCullers
The Second Coming, W. Percy
The Chosen, C. Potok*
The Promise, C. Potok*
The Warden, A. Trollope
Kristin Lavransdatter I: The Wreath, S. Undset
Around the World in 80 Days, J. Verne
The House of Mirth, E. Wharton
How Right You Are, Jeeves, P. Wodehouse Continue reading

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Books Read in November & December

Kristin Lavransdatter I: The Wreath by Sigrid Undset
A classic coming of age story that everyone should read. Kristin’s struggles with sin and relationships are portrayed with beauty and grace in this lovely historical novel. It was well translated and I plan to finish the trilogy. (9/10)

Eclipse by Stephenie Meyer

see other Twilight review here. (6/10)

The Magician’s Nephew by C. S. Lewis

I only really like this book for the end, when the reader gets to see the dawn of Narnia. I guess I do enjoy the history and connectedness it brings to the series as a whole, it’s necessary but not as enjoyable as others. (6/10)

Death By Love by Mark Driscoll

This book is a collection of pastoral letters pointing different people to different aspects of the theology of the cross. Clear and straightforward, the letters themselves are generally marked with concern and godly counsel. The situations the recipients face run the gamut, but many are very dark, and they are considered with the gravity they deserve. At the end of each letter there is a section with theological FAQs to address aspects of the theology not dealt with in the letter itself. These took away from the beauty of the book for me, so I started skipping them halfway through. If you are looking for a book to remind you of how Jesus meets us where we are at the cross, I would commend this to you. (9/10)

Never Let Me Go by Kazuo Ishiguro
Flashing back to her time at a British boarding school, this book centers on the reflections of one woman as she nears the end of her career. Though the characters are continually reminded of their difference from the rest of society, the novel portrays universal experiences like relationships, love, and the loss of innocence with simple elegance. The plot is haunting in many ways, and leaves the reader to ponder life, death, and the power we have over our own fates, as well as the technological/societal implications of the book. I obviously enjoyed it a great deal. (8/10)

The Reason for God by Tim Keller
This is a reasoned apologetic for belief written by and for an urban, learned audience. Smarter and more convincing than most of the similar books in Christianity, it has a useful place in an evangelical’s library. Keller skillfully goes through the most popular arguments against faith and belief and generally handles them with grace and ease. Probably would not hand it to a non-Christian unless they were really interested in that sort of thing. (7/10)

The Warden by Anthony Trollope

I found this ethical dilemma charming, particularly because of the strong descriptions of each character. This was my first Trollope and I expected it to be… funnier? But, I liked it enough to give him another shot. (7/10)

A Long Way Down by Nick Hornsby
I like Hornsby but this book was really lousy. (3/10)

The Last Battle by C. S. Lewis
The beginning is weaker than most, but the plot and ending of this book is very fitting for the Chronicles. Many solid theological issues addressed with ease and grace, the parallels to life are strong, and the ending is sentimental but lovely for those who love Narnia. (9/10)

The History of Love by Nicole Krauss

My sister adored this book, and I picked it up to appease her. I am very glad I did. Well-woven tale of loneliness, love and the things that tie people together. Written with multiple narrators and perspectives, the book feels in turn like a number of different genres, but it is well done and a good example of how the novel may evolve in the 21st century. (9/10)

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