Words on Wednesday

Kate told me to come and take a picture of her. “I’m going to do a real dive,” she explained. She was confident that her first attempt at a pike would be successful. Wouldn’t you know, it wasn’t half bad, considering the board (no fulcrum) and level of experience.

I love watching my kids in the water, and seeing their moments of bravado. I hope Kate will always know how to throw caution to the wind and believe in herself. Shoot for the moon, little girl. You don’t know what you can do unless you try.

Public Service Announcement

You can watch every single episode of Reading Rainbow on YouTube. Not sure how long this will last, but as long as it does, it is our kids’ official summer screen time.

“I can go anywhere / Friends to know / And ways to grow / A Reading Rainbow.”

Has anyone tried the iPad app? If we had one, I probably would. I trust LeVar. Incidentally, his guest role on Community was amazing.

Saving My Life: Seeing People

A new occasional series on the everyday things that show me God’s presence and care.

Nothing too traumatic but this week has been a little bit blah. Michael started his summer teaching gig. It’s hot and sticky. The bible stories I am covering for my current writing project are really difficult this week. I tried to get up early and run and ended up spraining my ankle. My sleep has been pretty disordered.

But, it’s felt like a good week. Why? Because I’ve seen people. Every day I saw a friend. They were gracious and fun to be with, even on days when I had hardly any sleep. With one I tried a new restaurant. With another, I explored the YMCAs of Suburban Memphis. With a third, we had a girls’ day and watched Brave with our kids. And that’s just the tip of the iceberg, it was a good week for socializing.

I’m also looking forward to seeing one of my favorite people in the world tomorrow, former roommate and all-around amazing G. She’s in Nashville for a family wedding so I’m heading over to brunch with her in the morning to catch up on life and convince her to visit us soon.

A good conversation with a friend or even a few minutes to catch up in the middle of shuffling kids around is such a balm to my soul. Sometimes I forget that, especially during the school year when I can go days without talking to anyone but my family and employees at Kroger. Every once in a while, an introverted day can be a good thing. But too many makes me a little crazy.

Thanks for encouraging me to hang out and live a little, friends. Your invitations and responses to mine are saving my life. Taking a minute to say hello means more than you know as we hit 11 months as Tennesseans. Sometimes we still seem like strangers in a strange land, but little by little, Memphis feels like home.

Good News

My favorite book on Christian hospitality is Andi Ashworth’s Real Love for Real Life. I reviewed it back in 2006. In early 2008, Andi Ashworth lead our church women’s retreat, teaching from this material. Both reading it and hearing it were good for the soul.

Unfortunately, the book has been out of print for a while. But good news for those who need encouragement in caregiving: Rabbit Room Press is releasing a second edition. Order today, it ships next week.

I need to re-read it myself and I’d love to read along with friends and discuss it. I always enjoy a good read, but books are better when they are shared, discussed over a beverage (I’m not too picky) and referenced for years to come as part of a common experience.

Wordless Wednesday

Recipe Roundup 9

As usual, you can find them all on my keepers board on pinterest.

Chinese Chicken & Cabbage Salad from Design Sponge: Made it twice. It’s in the summer rotation. We’re all fans.

Dijon Tuna Burgers by Serious Eats are the best tuna burgers I’ve tried. Cheap, easy, healthy and my tuna hating child actually ate about half a burger, which was a dinnertime miracle.

Monster Cookies are always a hit with kids, and this version by Recipe Girl is easy to make gluten free which makes it a good recipe to have around. Just don’t overcook them.

Multiply Delicious certainly didn’t invent the wheel with this Balsamic Chicken & Tortellini Salad, but if you need summer suggestions, it was easy and quite good.

Peanut Butter Frosted Brownies from Love and Olive Oil: I used regular sea salt in place of fleur de sel and they still came out fantastic and were a potluck hit.

Spinach Salad with Chicken, Avocado, Pine Nuts and Goat Cheese is another Recipe Girl offering we enjoyed. We eat a lot of salads in the summertime and it’s good to get new inspiration or be reminded of combinations we’ve enjoyed in the past.

Saving My Life: VBS

Kari often posts on Fridays about something that is saving her life that week. What she means by that is some way that God has been present and visible to her. She borrowed the idea from a book I’ve been meaning to read. I am joining in, with occasional posts in this category.

VBS has been saving my life this week. I had planned for the girls to attend one VBS this summer at a sister church 15 minutes away: we don’t have VBS, their friends were going and I knew this particular church would do a great job of communicating truth while having a great time. Then I received my first deadline for a big writing project and it became critical. It was so nice to have dedicated time to write and even meet to edit my finished work thus far, all during VBS. No midnight oil was burned for the first deadline, my stress level was much lower than anticipated, and VBS was certainly a huge factor in making it all happen.

Yesterday as we picked up the kids from their last session, one of the moms from Lexi’s class begged me to sign her up for another VBS next week so her daughter would have a buddy. Two of Kate’s besties from school are also going. I have another deadline in less than two weeks. It’s directly across the street from my favorite Panera to work at with lots of outlets next to booths. Michael’s 6 week long summer school class starts Monday and he’s really busy (as usual, he has never taken a real summer break, teacher style.) So I caved and signed them up.

Thanks to all who volunteer for VBS and allow slackers moms like me to take advantage without judgement. I am very grateful. Kate and Lexi would add their appreciation for every teen VBS volunteer who has ever given them a piggy back ride. (How did that become a VBS thing? I’ve noticed it in Birmingham as well.) I am also thankful to those who write great VBS curriculum that is fun, engaging and teaches the truth.

To all who welcome kids from other churches to VBS, you are saving my life this week. And you are probably saving someone else’s as well.

Rock of Ages

I went to a screening of Rock of Ages Tuesday night, and though my week has been busy, I wanted to share my thoughts on the film for you, kind readers.

Calling Rock of Ages a film is probably a stretch. It’s straight up guilty pleasure. It is cheesy and laugh out loud funny. The music is fun and infectious. Supporting actors like Alec Baldwin, Russell Brand and Mary J. Blige add a great deal to the fun and enjoyment, overall.

Tom Cruise as Stacee Jax was a little much. He would have been better used more sparingly. And at one point, I just really wanted him to put on a shirt.

The choreography and singing performances were hit and miss. I found a few of the dance scenes painful to watch. In the age of autotune, it’s less fun to watch a musical movie. Everyone seems a little too polished.

My guess is that the Broadway show is incredibly fun. I bet I’d be disappointed if I’d seen it first. But as it stands, I thought Rock of Ages was good fun.

One of the more disturbing things about the screening was the children in attendance. I kept staring at one family hoping they’d take out their sons (Kate and Lexi’s age.) There are scenes in a gentleman’s club and of women throwing themselves at Tom Cruise, as well as other inappropriate situations. They fit the sex, drugs and rock and roll 80s vibe, but are not anything I’d let my kids see for many years.

I’d probably wait for the DVD, but if you love 80s music, it would make a fun girls night out (it was for my friend Kathy and I).

I Read Poetry When I Can’t Sleep

“We shall not cease from exploration
And the end of all our exploring
Will be to arrive where we started
And know the place for the first time.
Through the unknown, unremembered gate
When the last of earth left to discover
Is that which was the beginning;
At the source of the longest river
The voice of the hidden waterfall
And the children in the apple-tree
Not known, because not looked for
But heard, half-heard, in the stillness
Between two waves of the sea.
Quick now, here, now, always—
A condition of complete simplicity
(Costing not less than everything)
And all shall be well and
All manner of thing shall be well
When the tongues of flames are in-folded
Into the crowned knot of fire
And the fire and the rose are one.”
[T.S. Eliot, “Little Gidding,” 1942]

Wordless Wednesday: Cousin Edition

Parenting in the Social Media Age

We had just reached Sunset Rock, an uphill hike of less than a mile, with a lovely view. As we gazed down at Highlands, looking like “a fairy village” nestled in the trees, I took out my iPhone and snapped a picture.

Immediately, Kate and Lexi wanted me to take a picture of them, walking sticks in hand. “Is it cute?” “Email it to my teacher!” “And then email it to MY teacher!” “Wait, just put it on facebook so everyone can see it.” From the mouth of a six-year-old. And it’s not the first time. “Just text and ask her.” “Are you going to tweet that?” “Did ____ like that picture of me?” and “Can you just pull it up on youtube?” are all things our girls have said more than once.

I wonder sometimes what all of this will mean for them. Even though they have limited screen time with no computers or iPod touches of their own, and certainly no social media accounts, they are so aware of them that whenever that day comes, they will start using them seamlessly.

How can we cultivate humble virtue in a world measured in likes and comments and retweets? How will they learn that doing justice and loving mercy requires more than a link or a mention?

Intentional parenting, particularly being thoughtful about what tools they have access to, and how they use them, is vitally important. I think different families can develop different strategies and boundaries that work, from firm limits to constant monitoring to sending their kids to camp for a month every summer where they are completely unplugged so they are reminded that life goes on (and can be very exciting) far away from little screens.

More than that, I need to set a good example by putting down my phone and focusing on them more throughout the day. Being present in their moments will teach them the value of being present as well. I hope they will learn how to be fully alive in a world that seems to be losing its grip on what is true and good and beautiful and real. I am praying for the wisdom to help them get there.

May Books

Fantastic Mr. Fox by Roald Dahl: Short, with very short chapters, so easy to read aloud. It’s the third or fourth Roald Dahl book I’ve read the girls, but it should have been the first. Good introduction to his style and great fun. (9.5/10)

Most Talkative: Stories from the Front Lines of Pop Culture by Andy Cohen: I’m a sucker for memoirs, but this one was a little flat. I wouldn’t recommend it unless you love Cohen or the Real Housewives franchise. (6/10)

The Meaning of Marriage by Timothy Keller is my new favorite book on marriage. Highly recommended for all adults, from single to newly married to not so newly married. (9.5/10)

Rabbit, Run by John Updike is well-written and interesting, with flawed and human characters I came to care about. It deserves its status in the cannon of American literature, and I’m glad I read it, though I doubt I will revisit it. (8.5/10)

Chris Cleave had a lot to live up to after Little Bee. Gold was good, with just enough drama to stay interesting. The writing isn’t “literary” per se, but it has moments of real beauty. (7/10)